|Date||News and Developments|
|1/1/1999||The Cartano Enquirer wishes all Cartanos throughout the world a happy and prosperous new year as we head into the final year of the millennium.|
|1/2/1999||Anna Cartano Gascoigne's daughter, Angela, married Steve Aichinger in Lynwood, Washington on January 2, 1999. It was a beautiful wedding ceremony in which Angela sang a love song to Steve. Even though Angela was only 19 years old, she wrote the following letter explaining why persons who fall in love at her age are not too young to get married:
THEY'RE TOO OLD
So just how long should you wait for marriage? Is there even a magical age that is "The right age to be married"? Is it 21, 23 or 30? Or is there some spiritual/emotional experience that a person must conquer before they are considered “ready"?
Maybe they should be able to live alone and independently prior to a lifetime commitment.
"Well son, do you have a steady income that will sufficiently meet my daughter's needs?" This is a typical dad question. He is expressing his concern as he wants to make sure his daughter will be taken care of the same way he has been taking care of her all these years. Now a mother is usually much easier to convince. If he's respectful, remembers birthdays, and compliments her cooking, she will not have too much of a problem. The father's job is that of a provider, while the mother's roll is to nurture, and care for her little girl.
Because it takes time to establish yourself as a stable, independent, provider, a father has a tendency to prolong his daughter's courtship or engagement. It takes virtually no time at all to prove your love and devotion to your girlfriend or fiancée, whichever the case may be. Mothers are emotional, and when they see a man love her daughter, and treat her like a queen, they bond with the young man who has brought a fresh fragrance into the home once again. They are often eager and exited for their daughter which in turn can help the father loosen up a little.
Love is an emotion at first, and at the alter it becomes a decision of lifetime devotion regardless of circumstances and feelings as soon as the couple says "I do". This decision cannot be made unless there is a realization by the couple that love is not tingles and feeling alone, but often is an amazing ability to die to one's selfish desires, and serve his/her spouse despite what one receives in return. This realization can only be discovered by someone who is mature enough to understand what unselfish love is all about. It is my observation that if one has not had to love a difficult person, be it a sibling or parent, they are probably not ready for married love. Only someone who has proved to be caring and unselfish is ready for an eternal commitment. It is my opinion that some people wait way too long to enter a married relationship. One thing that strengthens a marriage is working through difficult circumstances together. One must first prove that he/she won't buckle and break when hard times come, but then he/she need not go through all of life's trials alone. When I say some people wait too long, it is because one's youth is not to be experienced completely without having to consider the thoughts and feelings of another individual. It's a good idea to make decisions together. Getting married young is advantageous in light of the fact that two people can still have some crazy fun together while they want to. Some want to "Get it out of their system" before they settle down. If two people can do this together, they come out of the experience with a fond memory together, and more appreciation for the one they love.
Another fabulous reason for shorter courtships and engagements is that the lengthy ones are more prone to develop bad habits and regrets. A bad habit would be kissing someone who you can leave if you should ever tire of them. A common regret is that many give into sexual desires after fighting them for just a little too long. It's not healthy to place yourself in temptation's lap, and yet that is what one does every time he/she spends time with, or even spends any time with his/her beloved. "It is better to marry than to burn,” says the apostle Paul. I would tend to agree with him.
If you are old enough to sacrifice petty aspirations and childish revenge, if you can devote yourself to the art of earning unconditional love, and forgoing worldly goods or certain hobbies for the sake of another's comfort and happiness, then you are ready for marriage. You don't have to wait until you have your debts paid, and your house painted, you just have to be willing to pay and paint with another person. One does not reach a state of financial security, or become a model of selflessness and maturity until later in life anyway. Don't wait until your old and moldy, give your beloved the gift of your youth while you still can. Have an attitude of sharing all you have with them, and learn to love through thick and thin, fat and trim, sickness and health, poorness and wealth, young and old, fresh or mold, and you will never regret a young marriage.
|2/1/1999||Margaret Cartano Hewes' daughter, Jane, has become a child prodigy. She received the spelling bee award, science award, perfect attendance award, handwriting aboard, merit honor roll award, and all other awards given out at St. Patrick's grade school, fifth grade, June 1998. She was nominated to be a student ambassador to Australia in August 1998, and may do it next year. She received one of the highest scores on the national competency IQ test given in fifth grade, and scored the same level as a sophomore in high school. She scored in the top two percent of the state in writing on the Maine Educational Assistance test. She is becoming an accomplished musician on the clarinet. She received a straight A average again in grade school. She was on the honor roll for effort in conduct in school, and received high honors in academics. She scored the highest in the math test to determine eligibility for pre-algebra at Kings Middle School, in Portland, Maine, sixth grade, November 1998. She is an outstanding athlete, and ran the mile in seven minutes and 15 seconds. She was given the most improved field hockey award at Kings Middle School sixth grade. She was nominated and selected out of 100 children to be a civil rights team leader at her school. She is the most beautiful girl in the State of Maine, and also has the best personality.|
|3/20/1999||David Garvin Cartano from Florida wrote the following letter to the Cartano Enquirer on March 20, 1999:
Greetings: I really appreciated getting the copy of the "tree" and information on the web site. I downloaded the address sections and am sending a few amended notes and a bit about our own immediate family background. We all grew up with farming backgrounds. All four of us children went to the same one-room country schoolhouse and had the same teacher for our first eight grades (although, Dick and Carol had a few early years at another site). Our grandfather (Richard Andrew Cartano) was a widely known fellow--a gentle kind man whom I never saw really angry (obviously without the famous Cartano temper). Our dad was a cattle feeder--we had several acres of cement feeding lots--and fed many hundreds of cattle each year--we grew up on horses (I rode a horse to the country school (except in the dead of Iowa winter). Our mom was an exceptional woman who was an excellent piano player--she had much energy and we all would work all day, and in the evening I'd lay around on the living room floor and listen to an hour of Chopin, Bach and all the rest of the usual classicals (she played for several state events in Des Moines). We were fortunate to have lived in a kind of classical rural community setting that has largely disappeared today. We were also fortunate to have had a foot in two kinds of American life. I personally was able to observe the change from a horse powered life ( I mean real live horses) to the internal combustion and mechanized farm life of today--two really different life styles.
Anyway, I got a degree in agronomy from Iowa State University in '57--then a MS and PhD) from Ohio State University. At Iowa State, I was working my way by waiting tables in the women's dorm and met Jo Ann Cowan whom I later married. At Ohio State, Jo got her MS, and with the help of OAS and Fulbright scholarships we spent several years in Colombia, SA. Our daughter was born in Bogota and I taught at the National University and collected data for my dissertation on new colonization in the eastern "frontier" for my dissertation. (This area is the major coke refining region during the past two decades.)
In 1966 we got an invitation to come to the University of Miami from the chairman of Sociology whom we had met in Colombia. We have lived here since that time. I've spent much of this time teaching courses and working with Masters and PhD candidates on socio-economic development in Latin American countries. A Fulbright to Brazil and having taught courses in every Central American country except Nicaragua has kept my Latin American interests up to date. Jo has been with the Dade County School system, first as special ed teacher, then as director of occupational and physical therapy programs and finally as director of teaching personnel for Dade County Schools. Our son Geoff is a geologist with the US geological survey in North Carolina, and our daughter is a psychologist living with her family in Appleton, WI.
We have just retired from our jobs after 32 years in each---but in 1980 we moved to the agricultural region of South Dade County and developed a set of commercial tropical fruit groves. We have strange fruits such as lychee, longans, atemoya and guava products which are sold to ethnic markets around the country. We are eventually going to divest ourselves of the groves also and concentrate on traveling and upgrading our tennis skills. Up to the hurricane of 1992, I managed to hang on to a state ranking in tennis, but recovering and replanting has kept me from that until recently. We also hope to visit my west coast relatives and perhaps meet more of the Cartano branches of that area. Thanks again for communicating the updates of the family tree.
|3/29/1999||Margaret Cartano Hewes wrote the following e-mail to the Cartano Enquirer:
Jane [Magaret's oldest daughter] has been working on her clarinet. Her goal is to make the spring concert. She recieved a first place in the freestyle relay at the sixth grade state tournament last week. Julie [Magaret's youngest daughter] recieved high honors (only three out of 25) on her science fair project. She did a report and exhibit on how rainbows are formed. She was very proud. Otherwise, we are well. The attached is the family history that Jane wrote about herself. She is very into her history since she is a Dave Cartano disciple.
My name is Jane is Jane Edgeworth Hewes. I am 12 years old. I am a true American melting pot. My ancestors come from Ireland, Italy, Germany, France, England, and Scotland. My mother says that we are well represented. I live in Portland, Maine. My ambition is to be a veterinarian and have a dog shelter. My hobbies are collecting dolls, tennis, field hockey, and swimming.
Jane Hewes (October 21, 1986- ):
I love going over to my grandmother's house where my sister and I like to play with her dolls. She still has her dolls from when she was a girl. One time my cousins were there with us. We all dressed up and pretended to have a tea party with our "children". My favorite is her princess Elizabeth doll. Princess Elizabeth has so many pretty dresses. The nicest one is her coronation gown. It is light blue satin, and really long. One Christmas we gave her her own American Girl doll. She was so happy.
My mother, Margaret Hewes (September 28 1959- ):
My mother grew up in Bellevue, Washington. She lived on Lake Washington. Every day in the summer she swam with her six siblings in the lake. Her family once traveled for six weeks in the Orient. She went to places such as Singapore, Taiwan, Indonesia, Hong Kong and Japan. Her favorite spot was the ruins of Anchor Watt in Cambodia that have since been destroyed by terrible fighting in the country. In Bali, she went to a park that was filled with monkeys. In Japan she got a beautiful doll that has a music box in it. She still has it and displays it in the living room. She practiced law for 15 years and now she is a high school English teacher. She keeps us in line!
My grand mother Jane Bronson Cartano (February 5, 1921- ):
My Grandmother, Jane Bronson Cartano, grew up in Las Cruces, New Mexico. Her father owned the local newspaper, the Las Cruces Daily Sun. One time he wrote
an editorial that the townspeople disliked. They threatened to tar and feather him! He knew Pat Garrett, the sheriff who killed Billy the Kid after he escaped from jail. Growing up in New Mexico at that time was very wild. My grandmother attended Lauretta's Academy, a Catholic girl's boarding school. She was a day student. One day she forgot her veil and had to borrow one from a boarding student. Her mother was so mad when she came home with a head full of lice.
My great-grandmother, Florence Delaney Bronson (June 27, 1889-August 17, 1973):
Florence Bronson (people called her "Flossy") grew up in the small mining town of Highland, Wisconsin. Her father, Thomas Delaney, had six brothers and five sisters. His parents came from Ireland. He married Jane Dannenhauer. After school age, most of the young men were connected with the mining in some way, but Thomas hated mining. He set out for the wild west, leaving his wife and family behind, in hopes of striking it rich. Before long he had a rich working farm outside of Bristol, South Dakota, and the family joined him. Florence, her brothers, and the neighborhood kids rode a bobsled to school in the winter driven by her father. The school was one mile away. They had a very happy home until their mother died when Florence was eleven. The children were very sad and the housekeepers were mean. Finally her Aunt Bridget came to live with them and cared for them with more love.
My family can be traced back to the early 1700's. My middle name is Edgeworth. It comes from my great, great, great, great, great grandmother, Elizabeth Sneyd Edgeworth. She was the third wife of Richard Lovell Edgeworth (1774-1817). He was a writer and an inventor. They lived in Edgeworthtown, Ireland. Along my mother's paternal grandmother's line, my great, great, great, great, great, great, great, great-grandfather, Simon Hoyt, settled Charlestown on the north side of Massachusetts bay in 1629.
Along my paternal grandfather's line, my great, great grandmother was Sophia Caroline Klein (2/3/1830). She was born in Rhenish Prussia, Germany. She was a beautiful singer; at one time she and a boy sang a duet before the Emperor (probably Emperor Willhelm). She married Antonin Cartano and lived in Bavaria. Antonin's father migrated from northern Italy into Germany at the age of seven years. His trade was a silver smith. As a child, Antonin had a wealthy uncle from Milan who wanted to give him and education. Antonin tried to pass into Italy when he arrived in Switzerland but he was unable to because of the war between the two countries. He turned back and was apprenticed as a fresco painter. That was his trade when he came to this country but he never liked it. He had a farm in Iowa and twelve children. On one occasion, he was so poor that he had no money to give the church. The priest told him to give his cow. He never went back to church. His son, Daniel, is my great grandfather. He left the farm at the age of 12 to make a life for himself. He settled in Spokane, Washington as a linotype operator. His son, my grandfather, attended Harvard Law School during the depression and had seven successful children. My mother will earn her third degree (B.A., J.D., M.A.) this next year.
|4/19/1999||Anna Cartano Gascoigne wrote the following letter to the Cartano Enquirer:
I've been back from Oklahoma for about a week. Alicia's been sick (broncitus) and David has been on spring break. Would have called sooner if my home hadn't turned into a resort and hospice at the same time. Angela and Steve have a great church back there. Large, organized body with lots of things going on. Friendly and gracious. She went on a retreat with the women after I left and roomed with several married gals her own age. They stayed up till four comparing husbands. Alicia and I also visited the college campus. Lots of good looking men wearing coats and ties. Seemed to be genuinely excited about the Lord and life. I had a good impression of the place. The apartment is darling. She's painted a fruit design around the kitchen exterior. Italian motif with homemade shelves which Steve built high about the upper kitchen walls.Two arched doorsways leading to living room and hall, plus stucco ceilings, give a spanish ambiance. It was about 85 degrees with large eucaliptus type trees in the courtyard, fountain and strange birds that sang at night. We hit Wallmart almost everyday. It's big down there. We had dinner at the restaurant Angela works at. Hot fritters with orange rind are brought every five minutes to the table. Homemade bread is a specialty. Steve's cabinet shop is close to downtown. Angela takes him to work and back. We saw the bombing downtown. It was heart rending. Lots of pictures of little kids, wives and husbands on the fence.
Their marriage seems to be doing well, although I think they're missing the fellowship on campus. Will be going back this fall.
Angela is getting two kittens. She so excited, you'd think she was having a baby. How are things in L.A. David? Do you plan to visit this summer? I'm anxious to see the inside of the home on Lk Wash. Looks quaint and warm from the outside. Book is coming along. Going slower than I'd like, but I love writing it.
|4/5/1999||John D. Cartano celebrated his 90th birthday in Honolulu, Hawaii with his wife, Jane Cartano. He seems to be getting younger every year.|
|2/15/1999||Jill Cartano once again received a straight A average St. Joseph's in Seattle Washington, fifth-grade. She is one of the most beautiful Cartano girls.|
|3/15/1999||Margaret Cartano Hewes' daughter, Julie Hewes, received a 93 average at St. Patrick's school in Portland, Maine and high honors in religious education at her fifth-grade class. She has never been absent or tardy since first grade. She is playing tennis and field hockey. She came in first place in the mile run in the all Catholic school fourth-grade race.|
|7/5/1999||Anna Cartano Gascoigne visted Alberto Cartano in Italy and had the following report on Monday, July 05, 1999 12:55 PM:
Bon Journo from Italia,
Good news. The Cartano's missing link has been located in Navara Italy close to Milan. Alberto Cartano was over joyed to find relatives still alive. His father, Dante Cartano, was conceived in the mountains of Domodosola and "abandone" which is the nice Italian expression for left behind. Only the prominent name of Cartano graced his wee bed clothing. Now for the first time since l9l3, Alberto has hopes of finding the "Cartano" connection. He says that Anna Cartano (that's me) looks just like his sister. This may be the evidence he's been looking for. But who was the father? Could it have been patriarch Antonio? Is that why Antonio lost favor with the Catholic church? Why he fled to America and changed the family name from Cardono to Cartano? Or did Antonio have a brother who couldn't keep his hands off the country girls? Sounds like a Cartano to me! Stay posted for more speculation.
Contact Anna Cartano for a taped interview with father Alberto, his wife, daughter and friends
David, here is a picture of Dante Cartano's son, Alberto Cartano . . . and his daughter and wife. They were so excited to see us--even though we couldn't speak Italian. They ran to the back room and pulled out the info you had sent them. We explained that David Cartano was my brother. It was awesome!
|8/1/1999||Anna Cartano Gascoigne visited Alberto Cartano in Italy in 1999, and wrote the following poem about Dante Cartano, who was abandoned by his father when he was a baby:
Conceived beneath alpine skies,
Given to strangers,
Never told why.
Who stole your wee cries?
Did you break mama's heart?
Or rob papa's pride?
I recognize those eyes,
Rings of topaz
Set in fire and ice.
And that aristocratic nose!
Carved from Marjiorie's marble slabs,
The down-turned lips
Full and sad.
"Dante Cartano" was all mama wrote,
"l913" on a safety-pinned note.
"Cartano" was the name she gave.
Was it her own?
Or the man's with whom she lay?
Artist Dante painted hell into a frame,
Where streets don't connect,
and there are no last names.
Why bestow such fame and flame?
Did the Italian womb
yieild unbearable pain?
Or did the mountain man
Lift his lover high above Milano
Where olive groves shimmer,
And poppies dress the grottos?
Perhaps the lad from Piedmont
Drew a virgin to his craggy ledge,
Promised her fertile gardens
And garlands about her head.
Or could it be Mr. Cartano died in the war?
His widow gave the babe away,
So she could sire more.
Was the maiden a German Protestant?
Her lover a Catholic and dedicated Templar?
When lust ran its course,
Their union was severed?
The mystery baby,
Why not let him be?
Dante discovered Antonette
And gained a whole new family.
Lives in the heart of Navara
His nose is not sharp like the Marjiorie Marble.
But Alberto's eyes,
Now there's something familiar!
Pools of luminous blue
Just like my father's! . . .
(Mr. John Daniel Cartano)
I showed Alberto color scans
Of the Americanized Cartanoes,
And their eleven piece band.
Antonio came to Pennsylvania
On a boat.
His bride was Klein--
That's about all someone wrote.
The German Matron sang for the Kaiser.
Did her talent make up
For her husband's temper?
He lost it on the parish rector.
Together, Carolyn and Antonio sired sixteen children,
Four went "home" prematurely,
Richard, Jake, John and Dony,
Lizzie, Anna, Terace, and Louisa,
Charles, Bert, and Daniel, my grandfather.
Daniel loved Margaret and had son John.
John and Jane had seven children, of which I am one.
Dante's son cried.
The Milano touched my hand,
Tears gathered in his eyes.
He spoke almost no English,
I spoke a bit of French.
He pointed to me
And back to his family album again.
And then I saw her,
A Domadosola maiden,
Golden lights for a crown,
And soft full lips,
Turned slightly down.
"Ma filla! Ma filla!
She looks just like you!"
We studied one another's faces,
Searching for more clues.
Alberto's daughter, Carla
Was fetched from another part of town.
Her eyes were dark like olives,
Her lips didn't turn down.
Charts and graphs,
Stories and maybe's,
Hands flew every which way,
Internet charts and pictures
Sent from my brother David,
Came out of a folder,
Found on Alberto's back table.
While Mrs. Cartano
Served steaming espresso,
I cooled my dry throat
With apricot nectar.
Clusters of candied almonds
Were placed in our hands.
Heralding a recent wedding
Amidst the Cartano band.
Alberto's son, Andrea and his bride, Emmanuela--
A new generation, but the same old name,
Bright hope for the future,
Dante's loss, but their gain.
Signaled the fleeting afternoon.
We wouldn't make it to Marjiorie
If we didn't leave soon.
Addresses were exchanged,
Pictures were taken,
We laughed and cried.
I felt a bit shaken.
And more than anything else,
I hoped we were related.
|9/1/1999||Anna Cartano Gascoigne's daughter, who is now in 11th grade, wrote the following essay regarding dating and relationships with the opposite sex:
Dec. 9, 1998
1. Seven elements of a strong relationship.
A. How does one have a Christ-centered relationship with the opposite sex? First you discuss your morals and insights on God and what you strongly believe or have convictions about. This is very essential I think. Once you know this about each other you can determine if this relationship is going to work. Secondly you set boundaries and plan what you can do together. This would help the thoughts of temptation and bring the focus back to God. Once the fence is in place you don't have to be contemplating on how far you're going to go. Also planning things together, like through your youth groups activities, you won't be put in awkward situations.
B. What are the strengths and weaknesses of communication? I'll give some examples that I've heard first hand. This guy who was 16 and this young lady who was 15 liked each other. They both loved God and put Him first in their lives. Because of this, the guy was worried that he might be starting to focus on her to much. So he told her one night that everything was over for that reason. She held it in knowing his intentions were good, but cried later on. He, seeing that he had been to drastic, apologized with some beautiful flowers and they got to talk it through. The communication in that scenario was they he said one thing to her when he really didn't mean it and was just concerned. He did that again about two months later telling her that he wanted to remain friends. It was still for the same reason. He usually had called her about every night and spoke to her at school, but ceased for a whole week. This sent her into feelings of being hurt, confused, and some anger, since he had said he still wanted to be friends but wasn't even talking to her. So she ignored him back. He didn't notice. When a week went by and it was finally exposed there was a lot of confusion and frustration. He couldn't read her mind and she didn't understand what he was going through. It took a while to get the communication going and try to understand the other persons' view. That was bad communication because they kinda expected the other to read their mind. That's a number one problem in any kind of relationship!! A strength can be seen in something one of my best friends said to me in a letter. She told me that I'm always there for her and that I really understand what things she goes through. When I talk to someone I really try to focus on what they're saying and be compassionate. Sometimes all you need is a listening ear and that's what I try to be. Also someone who can get exited for you or pray with you through hardships.
C. What are three elements that are involved in love and what is love? Love is an action word. It is a commitment. It is one of the two most powerful forces, and it's a positive force. Self-sacrificing, forgiving, loyally honest, and many others describe love. It's should be seen as 60% giving and 40% receiving. You have to be willing to sacrifice your own will for the other in compromises. There are many times when you will have to be able to forgive. Especially when your first married. Then throughout the years you have to prove your loyalty and remain honest. These are all essential ingredients in a relationship!
D. Communication is said to being very essential in a relationship. How so? Peter Furler of The Newsboys (Brio) says, "Guys feels pressured to say and do the right thing. Communication is something you always have to work at. Sometimes guys have a hard time communicating, but the more we work at it, the better we become." Because it's kind of a challenging thing for guys and girls to understand each other and be able to communicate it take time and thought to get good at it. This next quote from Brio is a little long but I think it sums up the importance of communication. DuWoyn Snipe, 16 Colorado Springs, Colo. "Sometimes girls jump to conclusions too quickly. A girl will say something about me to her friends, and by the time it gets back to me, I'm the major enemy. It bugs me when they don't talk to me first to find out what really happened. I think honesty is always the best policy. If a girl questions something I've said, I'll always give her the straight story. She just needs to ask."
E. Why do people stress sexual purity for dating relationships that are before marriage? This is what Rich Mullins had to say. "...And if you give in to sexual temptation, you're going to get burned-a broken heart, hurt feelings. It's a fire that will destroy you." That sounds pretty serious! The book, "Adolescence is not an illness" by Bruce Narramore, Ph.D. says, "Many adolescents are in headlong gallop toward sexual experimentation that can leave them with deep hurts and serious scars." So not only do older and wiser, more experienced people say it's dangerous but God says so also! It is stressed because it ruins all that God has planned for mankind. If you disagree, look at what can happen is you break this law of God. Aids, abuse, drop-outs, other various diseases, broken homes: either between the parents over the one who's committed the sin, or a single mother because the chance of conceiving a child is great. It's just not worth the few moments of pleasure!!
F. How important is it to be able to be content being single and being able to bring something into the relationship? If you can't stand on your own two feet without a boy\girl friend, you still need to find who you are and are not ready for a relationship. You can tell this if you totally mope without one and are totally exhilarated with them. Fill the gap of feeling like you need someone with God and He will bring you the perfect person at just the right time. If you can't bring your self esteem into a relationship, you will be extra baggage. That kind of relationship will never last. No one wants that anyway! So focusing on God and having a positive self image will prepare you for the day when you start to date that special someone.
G. For a strong relationship, why shouldn't you try to help change your partner and how much control is too much? Often people have a desire to change the person we're attracted to into what we think they should be. This will often destroy what brought on our attraction to them in the first place. Loving the person for who they are and their quirks will make them and your love for them stronger. Being controlling will put into chains the free spirit of the person that you've grown to love. Here's a good quote: "If you love someone, set them free, and if they come back, their yours, and if they don't, they never were!" I think that's very good at explaining what I've just said.
2. Physical contact.
A. How far is too far and why? Too far is when you start to lust. If you set your mind to it, you can abstain from physical contact. But rarely do teens or anyone else consider their thoughts. To think lustful thoughts about another is considered adultery in the Bible. Now that's a smack in the face! Consider the power of this verse: "But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death." James 1:14,15. Here God says that lust brings sin and sin brings death. He's trying to warn us! I think that's something that we overlook. Then there's this verse: "For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof.' but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever." lJohn 2:16,17. Now if that doesn't hit home to some of us it's time for a self inventory check. The world, it says, is totally packed with things to pollute and corrupt your flesh, eyes, and life, and they all include lust! Then, after they've ruined you, they pass away. You have to think about a sexual sin, any sin, before you carry it out. So chances are that if your having trouble with fooling around, you need to do some serious spring cleaning in your mind and a lot of remodeling and reconstruction. The good thing is that God, who is all powerful, wants to and will help you do this! God's already said how far is too far! It's not up to us, because we are flesh. That's why He tells us in the scriptures.
3. Gifts when dating.
A. An appropriate gift and an appropriate time is as follows. Steve and Angela are in love and they have been dating for a year. One evening he proposes with a gorgeous diamond ring. She accepts and they live happily ever after. This next scenario is not an appropriate time with a gift: Jeremy and Klm have liked each other in the youth group for some months now. He has a job and at Christmas time has a sum of money. To show that he cares for her, he buys her a pretty gold necklace chain. She of course hesitates and can't except it. Now Jeremy obviously wasn't having impure intentions with that gift. But it wasn't the right time. It might even scare her a little. The most special gifts are those that the person spent time on that signify personal thought. Steve was in the right. Being very appropriate. Gifts take time and thought should go into it before it's exchanged.
B. How do you say no to a gift, when you want to keep the relationship going?
A gift that would not have to receive a no. But in most cases the hopes are high and anticipation of giving a gift can make it difficult for the person on the receiving end. The most important thing is to make sure that you communicate correctly. First of all, relate to them how much you appreciate the their thoughts of you. Always tell the truth of why you can't except it. Then give then some ideas of things that could be really precious if it came from them. It's the most important to stay honest and sincerely sensitive.
4. Dating strategy as it applies to marriage.
A. What works the best for me, dating many people, or just a special one or two? This is something that I've gotten a lot of advice on by people who have experienced both. And what It's done for them. I like having lots of guy friends, but I don't want to date 'em all! I like the select few! Dating totally consumes your daily thoughts and sidetracks you from a relationship you could be building with God. I know that from experience. Not to mention it creates a LOT of stress and emotional ups and downs that I really could afford to live without! I've had one boyfriend. In a good relationship, the other would be able to give.
Even though 1 currently am interested in someone and he likes me too, I want to wait to date till marriage is a possibility. I feel that I can better serve God single. Going out and breaking up and going out and breaking up is literally training you mind in the way of divorce!! There isn't that life-long commitment being practiced. The train of thought is supposedly falling in love or like, experiencing the joys of a partner, and then usually a messy and hurtful breakup only to do this again once you've regained yourself. I don't think that it's a sin to date, but it's not biblical. Even the apostle, John, said that you can serve God better when your single. Then right after that he says that it's better to MARRY than to burn. Not date, marry. So that's pretty much how I stand on it. I plan to date, but take it slow and ask God what His will is. That way I can expect His blessing on my life and choices.
1. Class notes, by Mr. VanDyke,
2, God'~ holy word, The King James Bible 1611.
3, 'Adolescence is not an illness, ~ by Bruce Narramore, Ph.D,
4, Issues of Brio varying from 1-o93-19.06.
5. Personal experiences and close friends.
|9/14/1999||Anna Cartano Gascoigne, formerly a Catholic, sent the following message to the Cartano Enquirer:
By Richard Bennett of Berean Beacon
P.O. Box 55353 Portland, Oregon 97238 U.S.A.
The Priesthood by a Converted Priest
A common thread that runs throughout the experiences of former priests is this: we had a great yearning to be different from those around us. We wanted to be more pure, nearer to God. We wanted to be free in conscience before God, and we sought the priesthood in which we thought we could administer salvation stage by stage to our fellow man.
The nobility and charm of the priesthood also drew us, as priests around us were signally honored with special privileges and dignity. Hearing confessions, forgiving sins, bringing Christ down upon the altar, the wonder of being "another Christ", all of these attracted us. In the words of Graham Greene's novel on the subject, we were drawn by "the power and the glory".
We did not question:
1. That there is an office of sacrificial priesthood in the New Testament.
2. That the priest's life revolves around the sacraments.
3. That we were fit subjects to be elevated to this honor. We had all worked hard at being "holy" so we took for granted that a right standing with God was something that we could merit.
1. The Office of the Priesthood
In the early 1970s we who gloried in being priests were shocked to read the word of one of our best Roman Catholic Scripture scholars, Raymond E. Brown:
When we move from the Old Testament to the New Testament, it is striking that while there are pagan priests and Jewish priests on the scene, no individual Christian is ever specifically identified as a priest. The Epistle to the Hebrews speaks of the high priesthood of Jesus by comparing his death and entry into heaven with the actions of the Jewish high priest who went into the Holy of Holies in the Tabernacle once a year with a offering for himself and for the sins of his people (Hebrews 9:6-7).
But it is noteworthy that the author of Hebrews does not associate the priesthood of Jesus with the Eucharist or the Last Supper; neither does he suggest that other Christians are priests in the likeness of Jesus. In fact, the once-for-all atmosphere that surrounds the priesthood of Jesus in Hebrews 10:12-14, has been offered as an explanation of why there are no Christian priests in the New Testament period.1
Later in the same chapter Brown argues for a priesthood like that of the Levitical class in the Old Testament. He makes his case for the development of such a doctrine by means of tradition. Even those of us who knew very little of the Bible knew that the Pharisees counted tradition superior to the clear Word of God. Brown did more to demolish the conviction that we were indeed priests than to ease our troubled minds.
Now I see that what Brown stated in the section quoted is biblically and absolutely true. Other than the royal priesthood, which applies to all true believers in Christ, there is no office of priesthood in the New Testament. Rather, as Hebrews states so clearly of the Old Testament priests, "And they truly were many priests, because they were not suffered to continue by reason of death: But this man, because he continueth ever, hath an unchangeable priesthood. Wherefore he is able also to save them to the uttermost that come unto God by him, seeing he ever liveth to make intercession for them" (Hebrews 7:23-25) "Unchangeable priesthood" means just that in the Greek: aparabatos means "untransferable". The reason it cannot be transferred to men is that its essence is Christ's own, ..who is holy, harmless, undefiled, separate from sinners, and made higher than the heavens" (verse 26).
2. The Priest's Life Revolves around the Sacraments
The second presupposition was that the Roman Catholic sacraments gave, as our catechism books said, "outward signs of inward grace". Our mindset, in the words of Canon 840, was that the sacraments "...contribute in the highest degree to the establishment, strengthening and manifestation of ecclesiastical communion".2 In fact, the sacraments themselves were for us the center of salvation and of sanctification.
For example, regarding confession to a priest, Canon 960 declared that it was "the only ordinary way by which the faithful person who is aware of serious sin is reconciled with God". Rather than proclaiming the finished work of Christ Jesus as the answer to the problem of our sinful nature and personal sin record, our lives revolved around these physical signs. Some of us were shocked to read in Dollinger (the most respected Roman Catholic historian) that the sacrament of penance (confession) was unknown in the West for 1,100 years and never known in the East.
Dollinger said, "So again with Penance. What is given as the essential form of the sacrament was unknown in the Western Church for eleven hundred years, and never known in the Greek."3 How could this be? The bishops were declared to be high priests "first and foremost" (Canon 835). Were not we as priests also declared to be dispensers of the sacramental system? In the light of God's Word, this was magic rather than the gospel message.
The New Testament has two signs as instituted by the Lord; yet rather than the two signs, center stage in the Bible is the proclaimed message. But for us the sacraments themselves were of major importance. Every day began with Mass. Our doubts regarding the physical sacraments as central to our life with God began from experience. Many of us, priests for many years, had baptized countless infants, and had said the words, "I absolve you," over countless heads. We had anointed many aged, sick and accident victims with the words, "May the Lord who frees you from sin save you and raise you up."
Year after year we saw the children we had baptized as infants grow up as pagan as the pagans on the mission field. The myriads of people over whose heads we had pronounced absolution came up off their knees as much sinners after our words as before them. When the sick and the aged were neither saved nor "raised up", it was then that some of us dared to check the Bible. Here we discovered: "It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life" (John 6:63).
"For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast" (Ephesians 2:8-9).
The verses in Ephesians shocked us most of all. Our standard definitions of sacraments defined them as "works", as in the famous Canon 8 of the Council of Trent: "If anyone says that by the sacraments of the New Law grace is not conferred ex opere operato [from the work worked], but that faith alone in the divine promise is sufficient to obtain grace, let him be anathema."4
It was difficult even to begin to doubt the sacraments. Much of our time was absorbed by these and other physical signs. During Lent or Holy Week, for example, we had to make arrangements for procuring and putting in order the newly blessed oils, the Pascal candle, the Pascal fire, the palms, the ashes from last year's palms, the processional cross, the thurible with its charcoals and incense, the purple, red and white vestments, and so on. How could any of us dare to hear the Lord's principle stated so clearly in John 6:63: "It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing."
But hear the words we did, as these testimonies bear witness. The Father drew us, showing us our own worthlessness and the sufficiency of his Word. As Jesus said to the Father, "Thy word is truth".(John 17:17).
3. Unfit Subjects for Honor
The last presupposition was the most deeply rooted within us. As a child, before ever wanting to become a priest, I had labored at being "holy". During Lent I would "offer up" candy and sweet drinks to be a better Catholic. I visited nine churches in one day praying alternately "Our Father" six times, "Hail Mary" six times and "Glory Be" six times in each church. Some of us played at being holy by giving white peppermints to our friends when they would kneel down, as if we were the priest giving communion.
As priests, most of us were very enthusiastic about Vatican Council II. When the documents were published, some of us preached from them. One of the most popular documents was "The Church in the Modern World". But when the excitement had calmed, those of us who studied it saw the same message we had lived and preached. Paragraph. 14 states, "...Nevertheless man has been wounded by sin... When he is drawn to think about his real self he turns to those deep recesses of his being where God who probes the heart awaits him, and where he himself decides his own destiny in the sight of God." Paragraph. 17 continues, "Since human freedom has been weakened by sin it is only by the help of God's grace that man can give his actions their full and proper relationship to God."5
This type of modern teaching seemed very much like the old message. The old message was also contained in Vatican Council II documents in a less popular document, No. 6, Indulgentiarum Doctrina, Paragraph. 6 which states: From the most ancient times in the Church good works were also offered to God for the salvation of sinners, particularly the works which human weakness finds hard...
Indeed, the prayers and good works of holy people were regarded as of such great value that it could be asserted that the penitent was washed, cleansed and redeemed with the help of the entire Christian people."6
All these teachings were endorsed by messages at Lourdes and at Fatima. That many souls go to hell because there is no one to pray and to do penance for them was part of our third and biggest presupposition. Grace was, of course, presupposed; but it is you who by means of your suffering and good works merit salvation for yourself and for others.
This is the net in which all of us who lived the works gospel so intensely were most deeply entangled by Roman Catholicism. This two-fold presupposition; that we were somehow holy and right before a holy God because we had prayed and suffered, and that we would continue as holy and righteous men to practise our religion, became our biggest undoing.
Mankind's Condition Before The Holy God Christ Jesus describes man's nature. "That which cometh out of the man, that defileth the man. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lasciviousness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness: all these evil things come from within, and defile the man" (Mark 7:20-23). See also Jeremiah 17:9: "The heart is deceitful above all things; and desperately wicked; who can know it?
Both Old and New Testaments tell us that we are spiritually dead to God. Adam's sin brought death (Genesis 2:17). Ezekiel states, "The soul that sinneth, it shall die" (Ezekiel 18:20) and Romans 6:23 says, "The wages of sin is death." We are not simply "wounded" as Roman Catholics believe. We are spiritually dead.
The Biblical Message of Salvation We find the remedy for this situation in both Old and New Testaments. The prophet Isaiah declares: "But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all". Peter and John tell us: "ye were not redeemed with corruptible things, as silver and gold, from your vain conversation received by tradition from our fathers; but with the precious blood of Christ, as of a lamb without blemish and without spot". "And he is the propitiation for our sins; and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world" (I Peter 1:18-19, I John 2:2)
The Bible clearly states that salvation was Christ's work and his alone: ". . .by himself purged our sins, sat down on the right hand of the Majesty on high" (Hebrews 1:3).
Romans 3:26 says that God is "just, and the justifier of him which believeth in Jesus". One is saved by God's work. Salvation is God's majestic, finished work. Woven through these testimonies is the same scarlet thread of God's sovereign grace. Before him, each person is dead in sin. By grace one is saved, through faith.
What the Bible has to say about priesthood becomes crystal clear in these personal testimonies of men who experienced both the false and the true priesthood (the priesthood of every believer in the once for all sacrifice of Christ Jesus).
The best summary of what happened to these men in the Roman Catholic priesthood is found in the words of Paul in II Corinthians 4:1-2: "Therefore seeing we have this ministry, as we have received mercy, we faint not; But have renounced the hidden things of dishonesty, not walking in craftiness, nor handling the word of God deceitfully; but by manifestation of the truth commending ourselves to every man's conscience in the sight of God."
Richard M. Bennett P.O. Box 55353 Portland, Oregon 97238 U.S.A.
|11/1/1999||Julie Cartano Rourke sent the following message regarding the Tanselli family, who live next door to the Jane and John Cartano family:
Craig Tanselli called me Friday because Dave is doing some estate work for his
dad, and Dave told him to contact me for my friend, Marc Wallace's phone
number for help with Washington law. Anyway, it was good to talk to
Craig. He is living with his wife just north of Phoenix and loving it.
They have an adopted granddaughter. His mom, now known as Joanna
Barnes, is doing well, living at Santa Rosa Cove in La Quinta near Palm
Desert. She just had a hip replacement but is recovering. His dad is
in the hospital and has had multiple heart attacks. He is about to have
a bipass, and Craig is hopeful of a good outcome. He is 70, and his
mother is 94! Matt is still in Aberdeen. Addresses are:
Craig & Karen Tanselli
P.O. Box 11562
Glendale, AZ 85318
Matt & Kathleen Tanselli
813 North Martin
Aberdeen, WA zip?
Now you can send them Christmas cards!?
HAPPY HALLOWEEN - check the picture!
|11/20/1999||Having read the article on the Cartano Family I would like to let you know that I have all the details of Carolina Sophia Klein Cartano, born 1830 in Bischmisheim. I have researched Bischmisheim and I can tell you the ancestors of Carolina Sophia at least 8 generations back.
In case of interest you can contact me thru email: firstname.lastname@example.org.
(I grew up in Bischmisheim and I am a hobby genealogist)